A Timeline for the Groom who doesn’t want to Sweat

(anymore than is absolutely necessary)

Some of the best advice I’ve ever read or heard about succeeding at most anything, including having an awesome wedding and a happy marriage, is to begin with the end in mind and work backwards to determine when and where to start.

So, where to begin? Try this one on, future groom. Assuming that you’ve got your girl, and that she said yes (critical step), the next step is to get a picture or a vision of how you want the day to look and feel. Who will be there? Will it be formal or more relaxed, in church or on the beach? Fortunately for you, this vision is probably already in “her” head, crystal clear, and in full detail. Whether that is actually the case or not, it will be good for both of you to get on the same page from the get go to avoid most of the misunderstandings, frustrated voice mails, and hurt feelings that might otherwise occur.

Great weddings don’t just happen. They require proper planning and precise execution. Unless yours is to be one of the “shotgun” variety, or for some other reason yours is to be a relatively short engagement period, you want to get out ahead of this thing way in advance. Since most marriages lead to children as well, I’m thinking that about nine months before the big day is when the timeline should begin. No further explanation necessary, right?

Nine Months before the wedding day, here is your checklist:

  • Announce your engagement to family and friends
  • Choose a Venue (the best ones sell out way in advance. Even this far in advance may be too late)
  • Set a Budget
  • Create a Guest List
  • Select your Groomsmen and Best Man
  • Send Save the Date Cards

Six Months out:

  • Secure an Officiant
  • Gift Registry (if you make it through this process and still like each other, then for sure it’s a match made in heaven)
  • Order Invitations
  • Select Photographer/Videographer
  • Hire DJ or Band
  • Hire a Caterer (if separate from venue)
  • Order a Wedding Cake
  • Arrange for Hotel Rooms and Transportation (getaway car, limos for guests, that sort of thing…)
  • Finalize plans for Wedding Night and Honeymoon

Three Months before the day (it’s getting closer):

  • Plan Rehearsal Dinner
  • Line up your Speakers/Readers
  • Line up/Hire any Special Music for the Ceremony
  • Pick out and order your Rings
  • And most importantly: Order clothing for you and your groomsmen (Custom designed and made with the help of your Tom James Clothier. Would you have it any other way?)

One Month before (So close you can feel it breathing down your neck now…):

  • Choose amazing gifts for your Bride
  • Select awesome thank you gifts for your Groomsmen
  • Get your Marriage License
  • Make a Wedding Day Checklist (leave no stone unturned, plan for eventualities, etc.)
  • Get a Haircut (a few days before)

Two Weeks Before

  • Attend the best Bachelor Party ever!

Wedding Day

  • Maybe get a little sleep the night before?
  • Shower, shave, etc.
  • Make sure that the Best Man has the rings and Marriage License
  • Get to the church (venue) on time (that is, when you’re supposed to be there, not just five minutes before your Bride is walking down the aisle)

One Hour before Show Time:

  • Get dressed
  • Tie your Bow Tie (do not wait until the last minute to do this like WAB did)
  • Consume a shot (or other appropriate amount) of your favorite beverage (calm the nerves; get your mind right…)
  • Take a deep breath. Relax and have fun. It’s your Wedding Day!

Ready are we now?

Not sweating this one,


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